{"id":6151,"date":"2014-11-05T05:45:09","date_gmt":"2014-11-05T10:45:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/?p=6151"},"modified":"2019-06-07T13:38:47","modified_gmt":"2019-06-07T17:38:47","slug":"what-have-you-learned","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/what-have-you-learned\/","title":{"rendered":"What have you learned in your time on Earth so far?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">I am far from having all of life&#8217;s answers &#8212; in fact, as I get older, I think my list of questions keeps growing &#8212; but I do think there&#8217;s value in acknowledging what life experience has taught me.<\/p>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">Shortly after I turned 40, I kicked off a blog series here called <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/?s=things+i+have+learned&amp;x=0&amp;y=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&#8220;Things I Have Learned.&#8221;<\/a>\u00a0I started with\u00a0<strong><a class=\"dark\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2011\/06\/16\/40-things-at-40-colleen-newvine\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"bookmark noopener noreferrer\">40 things I have learned at\u00a040<\/a><\/strong>, listing one life lesson I&#8217;d acquired for every year I&#8217;d been alive, and followed it with guest posts:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"posttitle\"><strong><a class=\"dark\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2011\/06\/23\/40-things-i-have-learned-at-40-by-margaret-yang\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"bookmark noopener noreferrer\">40 things I have learned at 40, by Margaret\u00a0Yang<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li class=\"posttitle\"><strong><a class=\"dark\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2011\/07\/07\/44-things-i-have-learned-at-44-by-scott-daris\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"bookmark noopener noreferrer\">44 Things I Have Learned at 44, by Scott\u00a0Daris<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li class=\"posttitle\"><strong><a class=\"dark\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2011\/06\/30\/35-things-i-have-learned-at-35-by-amanda-hirsch\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"bookmark noopener noreferrer\">35 Things I Have Learned at 35, by Amanda\u00a0Hirsch<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li class=\"posttitle\"><strong><a class=\"dark\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2011\/07\/14\/23-things-i-have-learned-at-23-by-brian-frankel\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"bookmark noopener noreferrer\">23 Things I Have Learned at 23, by Brian\u00a0Frankel<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li class=\"posttitle\"><strong><a class=\"dark\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2011\/07\/21\/70-things-i-have-learned-at-nearly-70-by-stephen-cain\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"bookmark noopener noreferrer\">70 Things I Have Learned at (nearly) 70, by Stephen\u00a0Cain<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li class=\"posttitle\"><strong><a class=\"dark\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2011\/07\/28\/50-things-i-have-learned-at-50-by-ann-belote-weir\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"bookmark noopener noreferrer\">50 Things I Have Learned at 50, by Ann Belote\u00a0Weir<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li class=\"posttitle\"><strong><a class=\"dark\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2011\/08\/04\/40-things-i-have-learned-at-40-by-lisa-g\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"bookmark noopener noreferrer\">40 Things I Have Learned at 40, by Lisa\u00a0G.<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li class=\"posttitle\"><strong><a class=\"dark\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2011\/08\/11\/38-things-i-have-learned-at-38-by-amy-spooner\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"bookmark noopener noreferrer\">38 Things I Have Learned at 38, by Amy\u00a0Spooner<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li class=\"posttitle\"><strong><a class=\"dark\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2011\/09\/15\/36-things-i-have-learned-at-36-by-catherine-mulligan\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">36 Things I Have Learned at 36, by Catherine\u00a0Mulligan<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">I love many things about this series, including the different ways different writers approached the concept and the range of a 23-year-old and a nearly 70-year-old each sharing some of what life had taught them. It was also fascinating to see how life sometimes taught people different and even opposite lessons, yet\u00a0how universal some lessons are.<\/p>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">So a New York Times article earlier this year almost felt like it should have been numbered to 44 and included in the series, as\u00a0Pamela Druckerman wrote about some of what she&#8217;d learned heading into her 44th birthday.<\/p>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">Her column, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2014\/03\/01\/opinion\/sunday\/what-you-learn-in-your-40s.html?_r=1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">What You Learn in Your 40s<\/a>, said in part:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">\u0095If you worry less about what people think of you, you can pick up an astonishing amount of information about them. You no longer leave conversations wondering what just happened. Other people\u2019s minds and motives are finally revealed.<\/p>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">\u0095 Eight hours of continuous, unmedicated sleep is one of life\u2019s great pleasures. Actually, scratch \u201cunmedicated.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">\u0095 There are no grown-ups. We suspect this when we are younger, but can confirm it only once we are the ones writing books and attending parent-teacher conferences. Everyone is winging it, some just do it more confidently.<\/p>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">\u0095 Emotional scenes are tiring and pointless. At a wedding many years ago, an older British gentleman who found me sulking in a corner helpfully explained that I was having a G.E.S. \u2014 a Ghastly Emotional Scene. In your 40s, these no longer seem necessary. For starters, you\u2019re not invited to weddings anymore. And you and your partner know your ritual arguments so well, you can have them in a tenth of the time.<\/p>\n<p id=\"story-continues-4\" class=\"story-body-text story-content\">\u0095 Forgive your exes, even the awful ones. They were just winging it, too.<\/p>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">\u0095 When you meet someone extremely charming, be cautious instead of dazzled. By your 40s, you\u2019ve gotten better at spotting narcissists before they ruin your life. You know that \u201cnice\u201d isn\u2019t a sufficient quality for friendship, but it\u2019s a necessary one.<\/p>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">By your 40s, you don\u2019t want to be with the cool people; you want to be with\u00a0<em>your <\/em>people.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">But with apologies to Pamela, I have to disagree with her on this one:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p id=\"story-continues-6\" class=\"story-body-text story-content\">\u0095 It\u2019s O.K. if you don\u2019t like jazz.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"story-body-text story-content\">Of course we all have our own taste in music, but if you don&#8217;t like jazz, maybe you just haven&#8217;t found jazz that&#8217;s right for you. 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