{"id":4928,"date":"2013-04-19T13:40:49","date_gmt":"2013-04-19T17:40:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/?p=4928"},"modified":"2019-06-07T13:39:32","modified_gmt":"2019-06-07T17:39:32","slug":"are-you-the-kind-of-person-who-gets-joy-from-life-or-who-is-irritated-by-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/are-you-the-kind-of-person-who-gets-joy-from-life-or-who-is-irritated-by-life\/","title":{"rendered":"Are you the kind of person who gets joy from life or who is irritated by life?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. \u2013 Dalai Lama<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I had breakfast with a friend this week where among other things, we talked about a simplified view of human nature: are you a person who is irritated by life or a person who gets joy from life?
\nSure, I complain about things\u00a0 but overall, I aim to get joy from life, so I loved this article headlined “22 Things Happy People Do Differently.” <\/a>It speaks to the choices we make about how to live our lives, including where we put our energies.
\nHere are some highlights:<\/p>\n

There are two types of people in the world: those who choose to be happy, and those who choose to be unhappy. Contrary to popular belief, happiness doesn\u2019t come from fame, fortune, other people, or material possessions. Rather, it comes from within. The richest person in the world could be miserable while a homeless person could be right outside, walking around with a spring in every step. Happy people are happy because they make<\/em> themselves happy. They maintain a positive outlook on life and remain at peace with themselves.
\nThe question is: how do they do that?<\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t hold grudges.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Happy people understand that it\u2019s better to forgive and forget than to let their negative feelings crowd out their positive feelings. Holding a grudge has a lot of detrimental effects on your wellbeing, including increased depression, anxiety, and stress. Why let anyone who has wronged you have power over you? If you let go of all your grudges, you\u2019ll gain a clear conscience and enough energy to enjoy the good things in life.<\/p>\n

2. Treat everyone with kindness.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Did you know that it has been scientifically proven that being kind makes you happier? Every time you perform a selfless act, your brain produces serotonin, a hormone that eases tension and lifts your spirits. Not only that, but treating people with love, dignity, and respect also allows you to build stronger relationships.<\/p>\n

3. See problems as challenges.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The word \u201cproblem\u201d is never part of a happy person\u2019s vocabulary. A problem is viewed as a drawback, a struggle, or an unstable situation while a challenge is viewed as something positive like an opportunity, a task, or a dare. Whenever you face an obstacle, try looking at it as a challenge.<\/p>\n

4. Express gratitude for what they already have.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

There\u2019s a popular saying that goes something like this: \u201cThe happiest people don\u2019t have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.\u201d You will have a deeper sense of contentment if you count your blessings instead of yearning for what you don\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

5. Dream big.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

People who get into the habit of dreaming big are more likely to accomplish their goals than those who don\u2019t. If you dare to dream big, your mind will put itself in a focused and positive state.<\/p>\n

6. Don\u2019t sweat the small stuff.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Happy people ask themselves, \u201cWill this problem matter a year from now?\u201d They understand that life\u2019s too short to get worked up over trivial situations. Letting things roll off your back will definitely put you at ease to enjoy the more important things in life.<\/p>\n

7. Speak well of others.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Being nice feels better than being mean. As fun as gossiping is, it usually leaves you feeling guilty and resentful. Saying nice things about other people encourages you to think positive, non-judgmental thoughts.<\/p>\n

8. Never make excuses.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Benjamin Franklin once said, \u201cHe that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.\u201d Happy people don\u2019t make excuses or blame others for their own failures in life. Instead, they own up to their mistakes and, by doing so, they proactively try to change for the better.<\/p>\n

12. Choose friends wisely.<\/strong>Misery loves company.<\/h3>\n

That\u2019s why it\u2019s important to surround yourself with optimistic people who will encourage you to achieve your goals. The more positive energy you have around you, the better you will feel about yourself.<\/p>\n

13. Never seek approval from others.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Happy people don\u2019t care what others think of them. They follow their own hearts without letting naysayers discourage them. They understand that it\u2019s impossible to please everyone. Listen to what people have to say, but never seek anyone\u2019s approval but your own.<\/p>\n

14. Take the time to listen.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Talk less; listen more. Listening keeps your mind open to others\u2019 wisdoms and outlooks on the world. The more intensely you listen, the quieter your mind gets, and the more content you feel.<\/p>\n

15. Nurture social relationships.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

A lonely person is a miserable person. Happy people understand how important it is to have strong, healthy relationships. Always take the time to see and talk to your family, friends, or significant other.<\/p>\n

22. Accept what cannot be changed.<\/strong>Once you accept the fact that life is not fair, you\u2019ll be more at peace with yourself.<\/h3>\n

Instead of obsessing over how unfair life is, just focus on what you can control and change it for the better.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I don’t know how scientific the analysis of what happy people do or don’t do is or whether it’s statistically correct — but these just feel like good advice. You can read the full article here.<\/a>
\nAre you the “get off my lawn!” person? Or are you reveling in the happiness that life gives you?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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