{"id":4572,"date":"2012-10-20T10:01:57","date_gmt":"2012-10-20T17:01:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/?p=4572"},"modified":"2019-06-07T13:39:43","modified_gmt":"2019-06-07T17:39:43","slug":"what-happens-when-youre-not-the-person-you-want-to-become","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/what-happens-when-youre-not-the-person-you-want-to-become\/","title":{"rendered":"Bonus Blogversation 2012: What happens when you\u2019re not the person you want to become?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>I rounded up the participants of Blogversation 2012 <\/a>by inviting bloggers who inspire me, who make me think, who give me pleasure with their writing.
\nWe’re about 10 months into a 12-month project where each of these bloggers takes turns asking a question each week, and even after this much time collaborating with these ladies, I’m still sometimes taken aback at how lucky I am.
\nThis week I had one of those moments as I read Lauren McCabe’s blog, Mermaid Chronicles<\/a>, where she’d shared a powerful, personal post headlined When You\u2019re Not The Person You Want to Become<\/a>. In it, Lauren wrote:<\/p>\n

There comes a moment in life where we are not the people we think we are. When is this moment?<\/strong> It\u2019s hard to see because it happens slowly, gradually, overtime, as we sink into a job, relax into a lifestyle, settle for less for a little while and then suddenly, a long while. This is the tricky thing about time- little by little, it adds up to a lot.
\nThe scary thing is that it\u2019s easy to think you\u2019ll become the person you want to be, or, more dangerous, you are that person. Wanting is the first part of becoming, but it is not it. We are cerebral creatures, our world can sometimes just exist in our heads.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

She goes on to describe her own crisis of identity, trouble with one of the things she identifies as being a huge part of who she is. And she suggests that perhaps the answer is to let it go.
\nI shared this post with a friend, who wrote back, “give up on your dreams? When do we ever hear that? What a radical expression of acceptance.”
\nIt’s true. I love stories about chasing dreams and perseverance and determination, but it’s equally inspiring to read about someone having the flexibility to adapt to life as it is instead of struggling force it into a notion of how it “should” be.
\nSo as a bonus question this week, I urge you to read Lauren’s post <\/a>and to ask yourself: What happens when you’re not the person you want to become?<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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