{"id":3449,"date":"2011-07-21T05:45:49","date_gmt":"2011-07-21T09:45:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/?p=3449"},"modified":"2019-06-07T13:40:30","modified_gmt":"2019-06-07T17:40:30","slug":"70-things-i-have-learned-at-nearly-70-by-stephen-cain","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/70-things-i-have-learned-at-nearly-70-by-stephen-cain\/","title":{"rendered":"70 Things I Have Learned at (nearly) 70, by Stephen Cain"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Stephen Cain shares 70 things he has learned at nearly 70<\/figcaption><\/figure>
\nLast week’s installment of Things I Have Learned featured our youngest contributor<\/a>, so it seems fitting that this week’s guest blogger is our oldest, about three times Brian’s age.<\/em>
\nStephen Cain’s list challenged me. My vision for this series was to share somewhat universal life wisdom, to pass along experiences that might help one another. Stephen’s list came in with a lot more edge, more criticism of the things he opposes, more calling out what he sees as wrongs and injustices.<\/em>
\nWe discussed a bit while I hemmed and hawed, and ultimately, it became obvious to me that being able to respectfully discuss the way we all see the world differently is something I deeply value, so why not do that here? While I might not agree with everything on his list, I’m happy to put it out there as a conversation starter. If you see the world exactly opposite, and he helps you realize that, it’s worth it.<\/em>
\nIf you’d like to debate any of these items, you can find Steve in the roasting heat of the Ann Arbor Art Fairs<\/a> this week.<\/em>
\nHis bio: I was mainly an investigative reporter for the better part of 35 years at The Detroit News and later The Ann Arbor News. I took early retirement, went back to school for a bachelor’s and master’s in social science and American culture, make jewelry that I sell mainly at craft shows, and also do woodworking, stained glass and stonework. My wife, Pat, and I split our time between a restored cabin and workshop in the southern Appalachian mountains and a condo in downtown Ann Arbor.<\/em>
\nI\u02bcll be 70 in October, and one thing I\u02bcve learned is that only a little bit of what passes for wisdom is universal. Most is personal or at best limited to subsets within our culture. So what I\u02bcm passing on to you is, shall we say, idiopathic. Some is liberal because that\u02bcs who I am. Some is anti-church bureaucracy, which is different from disparaging faith.If you\u02bcre easily offended, Colleen won\u02bct mind if you pass on to a less edgy list.<\/em>
\n1. I have three messages for my children: Never gratuitously hurt someone else; it is your obligation to leave your little corner of the world at least marginally better for having passed that way; and, never lie to your mother!
\n2. Prayer may be good for the soul, but the universe is utterly indifferent to your hopes and fears.
\n3. Doing or saying something that makes another person feel good about themselves is an incredible turn-on.
\n4. There are as many SOBs with PhDs as there are at the assembly line at Ford. The difference is that they have more subtle ways of screwing you over.
\n5. Late-blooming women are much nicer to be around than those who never got over being beautiful children.
\n6. It takes a thousand repetitions for a parrot to learn to say something clever.
\n7. Insanity is defined as doing the same thing over again and again and expecting a different outcome. We fight our wars that way.
\n8. If you thought about all the ways TV ads are deceptive, it would drive you to distraction.
\n9. Repeating a really delicious rumor about a boss will come back to bite you in the ass.
\n10. The gelding knife is the only cure for bully bosses who get off on testosterone.
\n11. The mistranslation of Mary as \u201cvirgin\u201d has screwed up western sexuality for nearly two thousand years.
\n12. The New River isn\u02bct.
\n13. The Catholic Church, in most places and for most of its existence, has served the state as an instrument of social control.
\n14. Feminism threatens men who pine for Stepford wives.
\n15. Frieda Kahlo was a more interesting person than Diego Rivera and probably a better painter.
\n16. When Michigan revised the criminal sexual conduct statutes, why did the male legislators vote to exempt fanny patting?
\n17. No Child Left Behind tests penalize the best teachers.
\n18. At least 80 percent of the turquoise on the market is fake, including some showing up in Indian jewelry.
\n19. Any husband who tells a wife with a gun, \u201cYou wouldn\u02bct dare,\u201d deserves what he gets.
\n20. If she were smarter, Sarah Palin would be really dangerous.
\n21. Those who can\u02bct counter the message demonize the messenger.
\n22. \u201c12 Bones\u201d in Asheville may be the best rib place in the country. Their signature is blueberry chipotle.
\n23. Cheap gas makes sense only if you expect the world to end before your grandchildren reach their majority.
\n24. The one thing Democrats have going for them is that they aren\u02bct Republican.
\n25. Excessive cleanliness makes you more vulnerable to pathogens.
\n26. If Charles were your son, wouldn\u02bct you hold onto the crown forever?
\n27. I got good at recognizing undercover cops wandering around Detroit Recorders Court … they were as easy to spot as women with dramatic surgical enhancements.
\n28. The fittest punishment I can think of would be to condemn shit heads to see themselves the way they really are.
\n29. They demand justice for everyone else but wants mercy for themselves.
\n30. The monied interests \u201cbribe\u201d Congress to tilt the playing field in their favor.
\n31. Never pee on an electric fence or into the wind.
\n32. The law of unintended consequences rules most of public policy and much of individual initiative as well.
\n33. I used to think the British were somewhat civilized until I read Irish history.
\n34. America has had its time in the sun, but I fear it will \u201crage, rage against the dying of the light.\u201d
\n35. You can\u02bct get something for nothing unless you\u02bcre a Higgs boson.
\n36. Einstein said the faster you go the shorter you are, which is only true if you are going headfirst or feet first. Otherwise, you get thinner.
\n37. I\u02bcm uncomfortable playing aces and eights.
\n38. Ignore Nelson Algren\u02bcs third admonition at your peril.
\n39. Cesaria Evora has the voice of an angel.
\n40. Willie Nelson doesn\u02bct.
\n41. Newton Minow didn\u02bct live to see the \u201cReal Housewives of New Jersey.\u201d
\n42. Never insure a texting bicyclist.
\n43. The \u201cCity of New Orleans\u201d changed the face of America.
\n44. The mosquitoes of Old Crow can exsanguinate a caribou calf in 48 hours.
\n45. Dictators never laugh at themselves.
\n46. Any preacher who claims to know the mind of God doesn\u02bct.
\n47. Lady Gaga is a parody.
\n48. If memories of childbirth didn\u02bct fade, we\u02bcd be a planet of only children.
\n49. Inhale before you bring a blowgun to your lips.
\n50. Jubal Early was Lee\u02bcs most inept general.
\n51. As a class, bankers are the Jubal Earlys of American capitalism.
\n52. Apples are immune.
\n53. Indians along the Xingu give haircuts with pirhanna jaws.
\n54. Atmospheric carbon dioxide potentiates poison ivy.
\n55. Will Rogers never met Clarence Thomas.
\n56. Charleston is the heart of darkness.
\n57. Arthritic thumbs will be the carpal tunnel of coming decades.
\n58. One year repeated ten times over does not make a decade of experience.
\n59. You won\u02bct hear \u201cDanny Boy\u201d in the pubs of Doolin or Listoonvarna.
\n60. Closure is a fraud.
\n61. Never pet a wolverine.
\n62. Most people who find incredibly stupid ways to die have already reproduced.
\n63. Parents usually get the children they deserve.
\n64. Most prosecutors in leading death penalty states would rather see a man fry than admit a mistake.
\n65. A really good friend likes you in spite of yourself.
\n66. Howard the Duck was wrong: The heat death of the universe is off the table.
\n67. Black truffle anchovy sauce over a charred rare porterhouse is worth the cholesterol.
\n68. Of more than a million species of acetobacter, perhaps a half dozen will make great vinegars.
\n69. Androgel and Cialis make old age tolerable.
\n70. And from my father, who lived to be 92: \u201cNever pound sand down a rat hole!\u201d
\nStephen Cain was the sixth installment in the \u201cThings I Have Learned\u201d series, running each Thursday on Newvine Growing. Previous lists have come from:<\/em><\/p>\n