{"id":2606,"date":"2010-11-16T08:45:10","date_gmt":"2010-11-16T12:45:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/?p=2606"},"modified":"2019-06-07T13:41:19","modified_gmt":"2019-06-07T17:41:19","slug":"i-am-grateful-for-my-girlfriends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/i-am-grateful-for-my-girlfriends\/","title":{"rendered":"I am grateful for: my girlfriends"},"content":{"rendered":"

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No, I'm not living a Sex and the City life here in NYC, but I do find the unconditional love Carrie & Co. have for each other inspiring.<\/figcaption><\/figure>
\nYears ago, when I was suffering through a rotten breakup, the thing I wanted most was a girlfriend I could meet for drinks or ice cream sundaes or something to commiserate.
\nProblem was, I didn\u2019t have any of those kinds of girlfriends in my life. Making an unfortunately too-common 20-something mistake, I\u2019d neglected my individual friendships while hanging out with other couples with my boyfriend. When that relationship imploded, I felt the weight of my mistake, and vowed to correct it.
\nI started hosting hen parties at my apartment, inviting some smart, interesting women I knew to come enjoy food, drink and conversation. Slowly the group expanded and I cultivated deeper individual friendships with some of those ladies.
\nAs a result, I am blessed to have some women in my life who I can call at 7 a.m. when I\u2019m sobbing \u2013 and while I\u2019m grateful this is not the only reason we\u2019re friends (in which case, I\u2019d have to ask Aetna if they’re covered therapists) it seems to me a pretty good test of whether you\u2019re friendly acquaintances or real, deep friends.
\nRecently I\u2019ve pulled together some small groups of ladies for soul-searching brunches to talk about our life goals and what\u2019s holding us back. I\u2019m profoundly grateful to know women who say yes to the invitation to let down their guard enough to talk about their ambitions and fears in a group setting, and even better, to share encouragement with each other and question and probe to try to help each other move the ball.
\nNone of this is to diminish the role in my life of my guy friends. I\u2019ve long had a number of male friends in my life, and in some ways, I understand their world better. You don\u2019t typically have to read the tea leaves to figure out what\u2019s happening in your friendship with a man — if he\u2019s ticked off, he\u2019ll probably tell you, then get over it next time you have drinks. Then again, most of my guy friends don\u2019t seem to get ticked off about that much as long as there are drinks.
\nI\u2019m just especially grateful to have had the chance to pull some smart, funny, considerate ladies into my life, as it\u2019s enriched me to have some friends who understand marriage or the workplace, for example, from a woman\u2019s perspective. And it never hurts to have some girlfriends who can help you go shoe shopping, either.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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