{"id":1321,"date":"2009-12-13T16:30:34","date_gmt":"2009-12-13T21:30:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/?p=1321"},"modified":"2019-06-07T13:42:30","modified_gmt":"2019-06-07T17:42:30","slug":"party-pointers-from-a-hostess-who-learned-later-in-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/party-pointers-from-a-hostess-who-learned-later-in-life\/","title":{"rendered":"Party pointers from a hostess who learned later in life"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>John and I like to host parties. In our dozen years together, we\u2019ve hosted multi-course dinner parties, booze-fueled cocktail parties and backyard barbecue parties.<br \/>\nJohn grew up with parents who threw parties so whether through nature or nurture, it comes naturally to him.<br \/>\n<figure id=\"attachment_1323\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1323\" style=\"width: 384px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a rel=\"attachment wp-att-1323\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2009\/12\/13\/party-pointers-from-a-hostess-who-learned-later-in-life\/party-1\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1323\" title=\"party 1\" src=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/party-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"384\" height=\"287\" srcset=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/party-1.jpg 640w, https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/party-1-300x224.jpg 300w, https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/party-1-370x276.jpg 370w, https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/party-1-600x448.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 384px) 100vw, 384px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-1323\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">We liked to put our back deck and picnic table to heavy use hosting friends al fresco.<\/figcaption><\/figure><br \/>\nThough my mom often had friends pop over for a beer, other than her 30<sup>th<\/sup> birthday, I can\u2019t remember a social event in our home. My stepmom hosted the family for Christmas Eve when I was young but stopped by the time I was old enough to learn much beyond her tendency to panic because she&#8217;d left too much til the last minute.<br \/>\nSo when we were dating and John wanted to have BBQs in his backyard, I had a lot a lot to learn. Of course I\u2019d been to parties over the years \u2013 but buying tickets to a Broadway musical is not the same as producing one.<br \/>\nOver the years we borrowed some of our favorite party tricks by watching the good hosts we knew:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Rachel and Timo always seemed to greet us at the door with a hot snack. It felt so warm and welcoming.<\/li>\n<li>Curt and Kathy stocked their bar with all kinds of booze and condiments \u2013 pickled onions and cherries, good vodka, good mixers &#8212; that made it really fun to concoct cocktails. A step up from simply putting beer and wine in the fridge.<\/li>\n<li>Matt and Rene would not only have course after course of great food and drink, but they\u2019d also create a cozy mood with loads of candles and nice music.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>As we got more practice as hosts, we learned a few tricks of our own that made the evening go more smoothly:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Putting out numerous paper grocery bags to encourage people to pitch in their empties. If people didn\u2019t see a logical dumping place for bottles and cans, they tended to leave them all over tables and floors.<\/li>\n<li>Setting out pretty much every serving spoon and fork we owned, along with a stack of dish towels, before guests arrive. No matter the occasion, someone always seemed to show up with a dish to pass but no serving utensil and someone always made some sort of mess. Putting these tools out helped guests manage if we were both in another room.<\/li>\n<li>Spreading out the party \u2013 putting the bar some distance from the food \u2013 to try to diffuse traffic jams. Of course everyone still wants to hang out in the kitchen.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><figure id=\"attachment_1324\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1324\" style=\"width: 320px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a rel=\"attachment wp-att-1324\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2009\/12\/13\/party-pointers-from-a-hostess-who-learned-later-in-life\/party-3\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1324\" title=\"party 3\" src=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/party-3.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"320\" height=\"239\" srcset=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/party-3.jpg 320w, https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/party-3-300x224.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 320px) 100vw, 320px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-1324\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">John liked to serve what he calls post-dessert dessert -- a surprise course of extra sweets at the end of a dinner party. Here we&#39;ve lulled our friends into food coma in our Ann Arbor living room.<\/figcaption><\/figure><br \/>\nAnd throwing more parties also made us observe what guests could do to make our lives easier, and we tried to take that insight to our friends\u2019 homes when they invited us:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>If someone asks for RSVPs, do so promptly. It&#8217;s important to know how much food and drink to get, whether you have enough plates, if you have room to make a few last-minute additions to the guest list. If someone is kind enough to invite you over, take the time to acknowledge that generosity.<\/li>\n<li>Once you have committed to a party, treat it like a commitment. Show up on time, and if you can&#8217;t, be sure to call asap. If it&#8217;s a big cocktail party and you&#8217;re going to be an hour late, that might be fine, but if it&#8217;s a dinner party, you might hold up everyone else from eating and there might be food on the stove or in the oven that&#8217;s cooking past its prime while your hosts wait. If you no show completely, an apology is polite.<\/li>\n<li>Don&#8217;t show up empty handed. Even if your hosts say they have everything covered, it&#8217;s kind to say thank you with some flowers, a bottle of wine, anything you think they might like.<\/li>\n<li>\n<figure id=\"attachment_1329\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1329\" style=\"width: 300px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a rel=\"attachment wp-att-1329\" href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2009\/12\/13\/party-pointers-from-a-hostess-who-learned-later-in-life\/new-year-2009-on-the-roof\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-1329\" title=\"New Year 2009 on the roof\" src=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/new-year-2009-on-the-roof.jpg?w=300\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/new-year-2009-on-the-roof.jpg 640w, https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/new-year-2009-on-the-roof-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/new-year-2009-on-the-roof-370x278.jpg 370w, https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/12\/new-year-2009-on-the-roof-600x450.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-1329\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">We hosted a New Year&#39;s Eve party last year, taking advantage of the opportunity to watch Central Park fireworks from the roof of our building. It was incredibly cold but champagne helped.<\/figcaption><\/figure><br \/>\nDon&#8217;t be afraid to help, or least offer. Some hosts prefer not to have anyone in their way in the kitchen but it doesn&#8217;t hurt to ask if they&#8217;d like assistance clearing the dishes from the table. If your hosts are close enough friends, bagging up the trash when you see the bag is full, wiping up a spill when it happens or changing the toilet paper roll are wonderful ways to let your hosts relax a bit more. Katie was always the master of wordlessly pitching in to keep the party humming.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>We also really appreciated when guests would drop us a prompt <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.communify.me\/newvinegrowing\/2009\/11\/10\/day-16-saying-thank-you\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">thank you note<\/a> after a party, whether in e-mail or in the mail. Putting on a party takes a fair bit of work &#8212; fun work, but work nonetheless &#8212; and having that effort acknowledged helps make it all worthwhile.<br \/>\n<strong>What pointers do you have for holiday parties &#8212; either for those hosting or those attending?<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>John and I like to host parties. In our dozen years together, we\u2019ve hosted multi-course dinner parties, booze-fueled cocktail parties and backyard barbecue parties. John grew up with parents who threw parties so whether through nature or nurture, it comes naturally to him. 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